Updated
Updated · The New York Times · Jul 9
Psychologists Define Limerence as Obsessive Infatuation Affecting Up to 50% of People
Updated
Updated · The New York Times · Jul 9

Psychologists Define Limerence as Obsessive Infatuation Affecting Up to 50% of People

2 articles · Updated · The New York Times · Jul 9

Summary

  • Up to 50% of people may experience limerence at least once, psychologists say, describing it as obsessive romantic infatuation rather than love.
  • The state involves intrusive thoughts, compulsive behaviors and a strong need for emotional reciprocation, often centered on fantasy and uncertainty instead of a mutual bond.
  • Unlike a brief crush, limerence can last months, years or even decades, and becomes especially concerning when it disrupts sleep, eating or work.
  • Dorothy Tennov coined the term in the 1970s, but limerence is still not listed in the DSM, the main diagnostic manual used in research and clinical care.

Insights

Why do we romanticize limerence's symptoms as true love when it mirrors the brain chemistry of a harmful addiction?
With its clear link to addiction and OCD, why isn't the debilitating condition of limerence officially recognized as a mental health disorder?
Can the brain be retrained to escape limerence's obsessive cycle, or is it a permanent vulnerability for some people?