Slate Advisers Urge 1 Student to Keep Sex Pitch Casual With Bi Best Friend

1 articles · Updated · Slate · Jun 25

Slate’s sex-advice column told a college student considering first-time sex with his bisexual best friend to avoid framing it as deeply meaningful and, if he proceeds, make the proposition direct and practical.
Rich Juzwiak and Jessica Stoya said the student’s wish for someone “special” but not romantic adds pressure and mixed signals that could unsettle the friend or alter the friendship.
They warned first-time sex is unpredictable—especially with a close friend—because either person could develop unexpected feelings, want a relationship, or react badly after the encounter.
The pair said the safer course may be not pursuing sex at all, though they added that if the friendship is already flirtatious, letting it develop organically could reduce the risk of forcing the issue.