Kait Granger Builds Grief Community on TikTok 3 Years After Her Mother's Murder
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Updated · The New York Times · Jun 3
Kait Granger Builds Grief Community on TikTok 3 Years After Her Mother's Murder
1 articles · Updated · The New York Times · Jun 3
Summary
Three years after her mother was killed by her father in 2019, Kait Granger posted on TikTok that she "don't think I'll ever be okay" — and the video went viral.
That post followed years of trying to appear recovered: she entered a counseling master's program, rushed into marriage weeks after the death, and later said the life she built felt like a performance.
TikTok comments from people grieving parents 4 and 6 years after their own losses gave Granger a sense of purpose after she had been waking up wondering why she was still here.
She kept posting about ordinary routines, antidepressants, poetry and her divorce, turning the tagline "let's not rot" into a small online community for people processing grief outside traditional settings.