Study of 5,000 Finds Men Hide Breakup Pain in 4 Behaviors

1 articles · Updated · YourTango · May 11

Binghamton University researchers surveying more than 5,000 people found men often recover more slowly from breakups, even though women report sharper pain immediately after a split.
Four recurring behaviors stood out in secretly heartbroken men: excessive sleeping, heavy video-game use, rushing into rebounds, and going silent or isolating themselves.
Therapists cited in the report said those patterns often reflect avoidance rather than recovery, with men less likely to discuss emotions openly with friends and more likely to seek distraction or quick fixes.
That coping gap can deepen loneliness and prolong emotional distress, the report said, suggesting social support and honest conversation may speed recovery.

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