Women navigate asymmetry and emotional labour in consensual non-monogamy
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Updated · The Guardian · May 8
Women navigate asymmetry and emotional labour in consensual non-monogamy
5 articles · Updated · The Guardian · May 8
Case studies from London and New York describe women handling scheduling, reassurance and childcare while male partners often struggle more to find dates.
Researchers and therapists say women may seek non-monogamy for novelty, autonomy and relief from domestic pressures, but easier access to partners can create jealousy, resentment and extra emotional work.
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