Woman considers ending relationship after distressing threesome experience

4 articles · Updated · Slate · May 3

In Slate’s How to Do It column, the letter writer says her boyfriend ignored her and focused on a trans girl during their first threesome after two years together.
Advice columnist Rich says the boyfriend fell short of reasonable care, but suggests forgiveness is possible if the woman wants to continue the relationship and makes clear how deeply she was hurt.
The column frames the episode as a test of whether she wants greater closeness or a breakup, while noting novelty can distort behaviour and future group-sex boundaries should be discussed more clearly.

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